How to Show Up As Your Best Self Today

Feb 24, 2020 3 Min Read
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Frame The Path Forward Through The Lens Of Learning,

Leaders are too concerned about doing everything right.

Focus on showing up as your best self if you aspire to do things right.

Justifications for worst-self leadership

1. Setting your hair on fire
You can’t bring your best self when everything’s a crisis and you’re perpetually over-committed.

  • Work on getting enough sleep.
  • Practice breathing.
  • Learn how to prioritize. (That’s code for saying no.)

2. “It’s not my fault”
Lousy leaders figure out who to blame if things go wrong. Evil leaders figure out who to blame BEFORE things go wrong.Weasel-leaders put others in the spotlight when success is uncertain. But when uncertainty turns to certainty, weasel-leaders step from the shadows.

  • Adopt a growth mindset. Read, “Mindset,” by Carol Deweck.
  • Ask, “What will we do differently next time?”
  • Provide regular progress reports to higher-ups.

3. “Poor me”
Short-sighted leaders justify half-heartedness with, “They don’t appreciate me.” 

Don’t wait for a pat on the back to bring your best self to work.


  • Pat everyone on the back.
  • Show gratitude everywhere you go.

Related: Three Types Of People Who Get Stuck

4. “It’s not fair”
Generosity – met with stinginess – generates stinginess in half-hearted leaders.

Don’t let others control your life.


  • Never let the faults of others be an excuse for half-heartedness.
  • An open hand takes you further than a closed fist.
  • Read, “Give and Take,” by Adam Grant.

5. Boo-hoo
Someone took advantage of you and you responded with self-protective half-heartedness. You can’t give a half-hearted effort and expect whole-hearted results.

  • Draw a line in the sand and start again. Bitterness is a short-term strategy.
  • Keep good records.

Best-self leadership

Bring your best self because it’s who you are. Frame the path forward through the lens of learning, not life or death.

Enthusiasm, curiosity, and optimism matter more than getting everything right, unless you’re a brain surgeon or an airline pilot.

Reposted with permission.

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Dan Rockwell is a coach and speaker and is freakishly interested in leadership. He is an author of a world-renowned leadership blog, Leadership Freak.

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