7 Ways to Span the Authority Gap

Authority builds barriers between people. You overcome by showing interest.

The person with power is responsible to move first.

If you aspire to lead, show interest.

Related: Questions Aren't Curiosity

7 Ways to Minimize the Authority Gap

People submit to authority. But the doorway to leadership swings on showing interest.

1. Express consideration

“Do you mind if I ask you a question?” Ask permission anyway. It signals respect.

2. Offer support

“What do you need from me? Or how can I help?” Remove a barrier. Help people connect with someone who could help.

Suggest alternatives when you can’t say yes. “I can’t do that, but here’s what I can do.”

3. Explore passions

“What’s energizing you these days?”

Energy reveals passion and values.

4. Remember things

“How did your son’s Little League game go?” Or “How is your mom doing?”

Make notes when people tell you something.

5. Be proud

“I’m thankful you’re part of the team.” Mention a specific contribution, talent, or attitude.

6. Listen with appreciation

• “Tell me more.”
• “What’s important to you about that?”

Benevolent curiosity earns influence.

7. Share yourself

• “I’m fired up about…”
• “Here’s my reasoning. What would you do if you were in my position?”
• “I’m learning…”
• “I screwed that up.”

People resist authority but respond to vulnerability.

Warning

A crammed calendar doesn’t have time for people. Influence shrivels. Position and compliance are all that remain.

Genuine interest spans the authority gap.

What step could you take today to show interest?

This article was originally published on Leadership Freak.

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