Questions Aren't Curiosity
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There’s no curiosity when you know the answer.
Questions that end with verbs aren’t curious. They’re controlling.
“We agree this was the best option, don’t we?”
“That’s what we decided, correct?”
Leaders ask questions but haven’t learned to inquire.
Contrast
Questions collect information. Curiosity seeks understanding.
Work questions aim for speed, clarity, compliance, and closure.
- “What happened?”
- “Why did you do that?”
- “Did you follow the process?”
- “When will this be finished?”
You can ask questions without caring about people.
Work questions move work forward. Curious questions move people forward.
Examples
Curiosity shows up as inquiry:
- “Help me understand how you saw this.”
- “What felt most important to you?”
- “What surprised you?”
- “What am I missing?”
- “What are you learning?”
- “What’s working?”
- “What will you do differently next time?”
Curious leaders invite thinking. Work questions often invite defensiveness.
Related: Stuck in a Rut? 7 Questions to Inspire New Thinking on Your Team
Use Both
Ask questions when you need answers. Practice inquiry when you want growth.
Questions solve problems.
Curious questions develop people.
Shift Conversations
Being curious slows conversations.
Control speeds it up.
Work questions narrow options.
Inquiry opens them.
Action
Before your next conversation:
- Check your motive. Is this about work or development? Or both?
- Do you need to know or understand?
- Prepare one curious question.
- Commit to talk less and listen more.
Curiosity isn’t simply asking better questions. It’s caring about people.
This article was originally published on Leadership Freak.
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