Your Language Lens Trains Your Eyes

What you talk about becomes easier to notice.

Your language lens creates focus.

• Say, “No one appreciates me.” You magnify every slight.
• Say, “There are opportunities here.” You search for possibilities.
• Say, “People take advantage of me.” You question everyone’s motives.
• Say, “Nothing goes right for me.” Your brain works to prove you right.

Words tell your brain what to notice.

Noticing shapes perception.

Perception influences experience.

Shift Your Language Lens

Change the script, change your focus.

What complaints do you repeat consistently?

You’re an expert at proving your words are right.

• Instead of, “I’m trapped,” say, “I’m searching for a way through.”
• Instead of, “This always happens,” say, “This is challenging. I’ve handled worse.”
• Instead of, “Everything is a mess,” say, “This specific issue needs attention.”

Be careful what you repeatedly say. Your mind is listening.

The 24-Hour Project

Listen to yourself for a day. Listen to the stories you tell, the complaints you mutter, and the self-talk that echoes in your head.

People with a pessimistic explanatory style transform setbacks into disasters. (See: Learned Optimism)

Don’t replace, “Everything is terrible,” with “Everything is wonderful.” Leaders face reality, not fairytales. Challenge your narrative. Confront negative loops with, “What else could be true?”

Talk about possibilities more than problems.

How is your language lens teaching your eyes what to look for?

This article was originally published on Leadership Freak.