Top 10 Ways To Improve Your Interpersonal Skills

By Roshan Thiran|20-08-2014 | 1 Min Read

10. Dont Complain

There is nothing more unappealing than a person who constantly complains and whines about everything. A complainer is always viewed negatively.

If you have to verbalise your dissatisfactions, save it for the appropriate route: either a person in charge, privately to your close family and friends, or your journal. You don’t want to be labeled as the office brat. Nobody likes a brat.

9. Put yourself in the shoes of others

It is easier to connect with people if you understand them better. There may be a reason why your graphic designer or operations manager always looks so gloomy. Take time to talk to them and try seeing things from their perspective.

8. Ignite laughter

Don’t be afraid to be funny in front of your co-workers. Feel free to laugh at situations and make witty jokes. Use your humour to lower barriers and get people to be more comfortable with each other. Just make sure that your jokes are not inappropriate or harmful.

7. Communicate clearly

Don’t overuse metaphors or Shakespearean language to communicate. Be clear about the message you want to convey. Always think before you respond to anything, especially in company or client meetings.

Don’t just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Construct your ideas in a proper and effective manner.

6. Listen carefully

Listen actively to what your colleagues have to say and be open to other people’s opinions and ideas.

Being a good listener shows that you hear and acknowledge other people’s perspectives. Listening actively shows others that you are genuine, and they will feel more connected to you.

5. Promote togetherness

Create environments that are friendly and warm to encourage togetherness among co-workers. Treat everyone equally, and give everyone a chance to speak up in the office. Don’t play favourites or get into cliques.

4. Settle disputes fittingly

When someone is being problematic, don’t bring it up in front of the whole office. Speak to him or her personally and explain to them why you disagree with their actions. The worst thing to do is to speak about it to other colleagues behind their back.

3. Be considerate

Be aware of what is happening with your co-workers. Take note of birthdays and happy events in their life. Be sure to congratulate them. Also remember to show compassion and empathy when a colleague is going through a difficult time. Simple gestures show that you are concerned and you care about the people around you.

2. Show appreciation

Appreciate the hard work and efforts made by your team members. Say “thank you” and acknowledge the good work that they have done. Be generous with praises and kind words to your colleagues. Always point out the positive values.

1. Put on a big, happy smile!

Maintain a cheerful and positive attitude. Greet your colleagues with a smile when you see them. This will make them feel that you are approachable and they will become more comfortable around you. As they say, a simple smile can brighten up a person’s day.

Originally posted online on 8 July, 2013.

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Roshan is the Founder and CEO of the Leaderonomics Group. He believes that everyone can be a leader and "make a dent in the universe", in their own special ways. He is constantly featured on TV, radio and numerous publications sharing the Science of Building Leaders and on leadership development. Follow him at
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