Motherhood has got to be the world’s most aggravating and frustrating job at times. The relentless nature of the work can drive a person to tears. Laugh instead. What other job can make you wonder about that odd smell and result in you finding another person’s vomit stains on your nice office clothes?
In today’s world where work is unrelenting and ever changing, sometimes the best way to cope is having some perspective and seeing the humour in things that don’t always turn out as expected.
6. This too shall pass
There are so many stages of motherhood, and they all have their challenges and blessings. When I’m in the middle of a particularly tough one, I try to remember that it is just that (a stage) and that today is not forever.
On the flip side, it’s more important to stop and savour the beautiful moments for the exact same reason: because today is not forever.
At work, when things get particularly challenging and I’m kept awake at night due to my inability to see a solution, I just tell myself that in time it will be ok and this too, shall pass and inevitably it does. I sleep a lot better now.
7. The best things in life really are free
Forget about exotic vacations, roadshow like birthday parties and designer wear for your child. Smiles, cuddles, companionship, conversation, a sense of belonging, a reason to get up, the satisfaction of watching another person grow under your care. These are the best things of motherhood, and they are all free. Free!
The same goes for nurturing team relationships. It’s the lunch time conversations, banter, humour, teasing and learnings that we make from one another that fill us as human beings. Well okay, the big bonuses help too but at the end of the day, we all like to come to work where we are interacting with each other as friends.
8. Happy people are free to be themselves
Of course I appreciate structure and order in my home as much as the next person, but I’ve learned that when our family is really doing what families do best, our house can be quite noisy and messy and that’s okay.
These are just temporary circumstances that allow us to be natural and open with each other.
Similarly, at work sometimes things can get off script and plans don’t always pan out as intended. The idea is to remain true to the purpose and adapting as we go along. It’s about finding the balance between moving forward and being happy.
Motherhood has also given me the ability to focus and be fearless in going after what I want. Seven years ago, I wrote an e-mail after reading an article in The Star written by Leaderonomics CEO Roshan Thiran about leaving a legacy.