Why We Need to Take ‘Sex’ Out of Work

Mar 16, 2021 3 Min Read
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Source:Leaderonomics Archives
You are not a sex at work; you are an individual.

I know barriers for women still exist in the workplace. On occasion, bad attitudes and assumptions still emerge that seem to be intent on holding women back. However, I truly believe both men and women can create barriers when they may not even be there. How do you get around, over or under the real barriers that do exist and arrive at a point where sex is truly not important at work?
When I started my career, I didn’t walk into my first role thinking, I’m a female. People will discriminate against me and I will not be promoted. I was fortunate to have strong role models who encouraged me, and I was taught to think of myself as an individual – someone who has something to offer. They also equipped me with the business skills I needed to progress. (Unfortunately, not everyone has had good role models or any role models in their upbringing or in their career journey).
Going into any role (at any level) starts with belief in yourself. If you start sabotaging yourself with misperceptions, it will make your journey harder. You are a businessperson first. That should be your focus. How do I get from A to B as a businessperson and what are the skills that I need?
Working for over 25 years with C-suit executives I noticed that there are certain things that the Top 10 percenters (T10P’s) (who are the most successful) do that puts them at the top of their field. Their success had nothing to do with their gender.

Here are the top 5:

  1. At every level in their career - they lead - They lead by example, act ethically, call out bad behaviour as it happens and take responsibility. They see problems and find the solutions.
  2. They have a support group - T10P’s know they can have it all, they just can’t do it all. They build a team of advisors, mentors and coaches. They are not afraid to ask for help.
  3. They know their weaknesses - They understand they are not perfect and bring in the right people to help.
  4. T10P’s embrace confidence, not arrogance - They don’t feel the need to overstate their achievements. They treat everyone with respect and with common courtesies regardless of their level or importance.
  5. T10P’s own their mistakes - They don’t blame the organisation, the systems, the culture, the economy, or their boss for their losses. They just get on with it. Fix what needs to be fixed and take accountability. They focus on what they do have, not what they don’t.

These T10Ps are female and male. Gender did not come into the equation for their success. Ensuring that they had the right skills and abilities is what elevates them into the top 10 percent. 
There are hundreds of things we will need to do to take sex out of work completely. If you focus on you as an individual, and what you need to do to get from A to B as a T10p, I believe your journey will have a greater chance of success.

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Judith Beck is the author of No Sex at Work (Major Street Publishing), which shares the do’s and don’ts from her experience as founder of executive search firm, Financial Recruitment Group. Over her career, Judith has successfully placed thousands of candidates at senior to managing director level with some of Australia’s most successful financial institutions. Judith also founded Financial Executive Women (FEW) and is a sought-after speaker and media commentator. For more information visit www.judithbeck.com.au

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